The probability of a first marriage ending in a divorce within 5 years is 20%, but the
probability of a premarital cohabitation breaking up within 5 years is 49%. After 10 years, the
probability of a first marriage ending is 33%, compared with 62% for cohabitations.
Source: Rita DeMaria
1) When I'm upset I am very tone sensitive. How you say it is more important than what you say.
Most women focus on the content of a conversation when they're upset. Not Men. While they do
pay attention to what you're saying, how you say it is more important. When you are in a
disagreement you can yell, scream, or whatever...but that usually leads to a breakup. He can't hear
you when it's too intense.
He may well deserve to be yelled at and if he does, then go for it. Just remember, the
greater the amount of emotion a man feels, the more sensitive he is to your tone.
2) I don’t always know how I feel. That’s why I don’t tell you.
Men have an ability that most women don't understand: we can shut off our feelings pretty
easily. In fact, most of the time we aren't feeling anything. It takes a lot of effort for a
man to "feel." If you want to know what a man is feeling, ask him this question instead, "What
do you think about __________?"
You won't get an emotional answer like you'd receive from one of your girlfriends, but it's
easier for him to begin sharing his thoughts rather than start revealing his feelings.
3) If I do one thing and say something contradictory, go with my actions. That will always tell
you what’s in my heart.
as they do women. The reason is that men tend to say what they believe...in the moment. Since
men don't feel often, they are very susceptible...when they do feel. If they are feeling romantic
at the moment, they may make a promise that they sincerely believe. However, they may not keep
that promise once that romantic feeling fades away. It isn't right and it certainly isn't
mature to do this, but that's what men do.
It is when a man consistently does these things that a woman should trust his intentions. It
isn't as important that a man says wonderful things as it is when his actions align with what